When I decided to start my blog it was because I wanted to reach out to other moms. I have a deep desire to connect with other moms and be real, because the truth is, although being a mom IS awesome, it's also the hardest job I have ever had!
I do have memories of all the sweet moments above, but rarely do they occur in one day. We don't usually eat breakfast together because we get up at different times and I'm an eat as soon as your feet hit the floor kinda girl. I love it when the boys get to kiss daddy goodbye in the morning, but these days he is gone before the sun has even risen so those good morning kisses must wait for the weekend. I wish a quick clean of my house meant it was CLEAN, but it's usually just a start. And although my boys have many sweet moments together, we also have many where Izzy is complaining because Mickey Blue hit him. And Mickey Blue is crying because Little Lou is touching him. And Little Lou is crying because I've disappeared from sight seeking my cup of tea with a great longing to at least drink it while it's still luke warm.
After having Little Lou just a year ago, my mothering has really been challenged. Although I have 4 boys, there is 9 years between the first 2 and 6 years between the second two. Then, just 21 months later along came Little Lou. It is a whole different ball game having two littles running around. My focus is divided, they both need constant love and nurturing. On top of that, there is still a house to run and older kids to teach. So, after much learning and even more reflecting, I am excited to have been invited by Alicia to come and share my parenting experiences with you.
These are the top 5 lessons that I’ve learned this year…
1. Human beings don't like to be controlled, and this includes little human beings. We can nurture, love, guide, and correct, but we cannot control them. They will still make mistakes, and say things they shouldn't, and behave inappropriately. Our job isn't to control them, but to guide them, help them learn from their mistakes and role model healthy behaviours for them. We can't control how they act, but we can control how we respond.
2. Silence is only golden….. if you actually know what your kids are doing...
3. Moms with young children usually don't live in sparkling clean designer homes with nothing on the floor. As your kids get older it is easier to have a clean house or at least to get it back to clean in under a week. But when you have little ones around the mess grows as you are cleaning. I've coped by getting rid of excess things and minimizing their toys. But it's often still a mess.
4. Time goes so quickly. By the end of this year I will have an 18 year old. What!? And my littlest will no longer be a baby. My mother always warned me it would go fast, but I didn’t realize just how quickly. Take the time to do the things that matter! Play with your kids, read to them, giggle together about little funnies, explore the world together. Love to a child is spelled T I M E. In our busy, fast based world today, slow down and make that time because you don’t get a second chance.
5. It is so important to have support. I am so grateful to have found some wonderful friends in our new community (having moved towns almost 4 years ago). It is really important to have other moms and women that we can connect with and relate to. It helps to normalize our mothering experiences and to share our ups and our downs. Sometimes this can make all the difference between coping and not coping during those hard times. I used to run a daycare back in our old town and I always used to say, “Sometimes I just need to talk to someone who doesn’t stare at my belly button!”
And on that note, I want to again extend my thanks to Alicia for having me on her blog. As a fellow reader, I really enjoy everything that she brings to the table for us and the community that she is developing here.
About The Author:
I love that being a mom is such an awesome way to connect with other mothers. I have experienced pregnancy loss and I have 2 beautiful rainbow babies. We are a blended family. And I am also a special needs mama. I started my writing to be able to connect with and come along side other moms on this amazing and crazy ride we call motherhood.
Currently we homeschool our children. I teach using a mix of methods, but I really enjoy Charlotte Mason style learning and nature study. You can learn more about me and follow along with my mothering journey on my blog www.makinghermama.com
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